CWID NEWS : August 2009

SAFE MOTHERHOOD

She wakes up in the middle of the night with extreme back pains, any time from now she expects another bundle of joy in her family, the pains get worse and it suddenly dawns on her, ‘the baby is here’ The hospital is ten kilometers away, she wakes up her husband to help her make it to the hospital but he gives her a cold shoulder and says  ‘lets get a midwife, no going to the hospital’ so he runs out in the midst of her persistence to visit a doctor and comes back a few minutes later with this inexperienced woman who knows nothing about safe delivery.

 Hours later the pregnant mother is dying of pain and is calling for help to have her baby safely delivered, the midwife to her dismay has not been able to bring the child out no matter how much time she has spent trying to locate and pull the baby out with her bare hands. She then realizes she cannot make it, the pregnancy has complications, complications she cannot handle.

Before they realize it the mother is bleeding profusely, she passes out and later they realize the baby could be dead, to them they look at it as one of those ‘normal’ child birth accidents.

Every minute around the world 380 women get pregnant, 190 women face unplanned pregnancies, 110 women experience pregnancy related complications, 40 women have unsafe abortions while one woman dies, every minute.

According to Multiple Indicator Cluster and Demographic and Health Surveys, with a total population at 33.5 Million Kenya’s annual maternal statistics read as below:

Cases

Numbers(ann.)

Annual births

1,322,000

Maternal mortality ratio per 1000 deliveries

1,000

Annual Maternal Deaths

13,200

Annual number of still births

61,400

Under five deaths

158,600

Newborn lives saved

Up to 29,800

 

 

 

 

 

Even with the establishment of national Maternal, Newborn and Child Health task force, the number of baby-friendly hospitals in the country stands up to approximately 232, only 22% of the districts countrywide offer Integrated Management of childhood illness services.

It is evident that women and infants in our country suffer maternal problems, most of them come from poor families in which case they cannot afford to give birth to a moderate hospital with facilities to cater for the welfare of the mother and the children. In most cases people in such families believe birth complications are natural and that not even doctors can save their women and children in such cases.

 Most of these cases happen in the rural parts of Kenya where people still face poor infrastructure. Accessing a hospital in itself is a major struggle, it is in these areas where people use bicycles, carts and domestic animals i.e. donkeys for transportation. Pregnant women would therefore find themselves being taken to the hospital using such means which is not safe for both the mother and child.

 

 

Quite a number of those hospitals lack proper facilities to handle complicated deliveries, that is why we have a high number of still births or women dying during birth. Such hospitals also have less and many inexperienced nurses and doctors to take care of the deliveries professionally and in proper time.

 Those service providers have also been known for poor attitude when providing services to the women who need it, this has discouraged most women who visit the hospitals, while some have preferred to be attended to by the male doctors, others have completely declined to have their babies in hospitals or even go for the antenatal and prenatal clinic because of the abuses and embarrass- ment they receive from the female nurses.

 

CWID’s Betty Sharon holding a baby at the Shimo La Tewa Women Prisons.

People living in the rural areas are mostly known to be bound to the traditional norms, some of those traditions in some communities dictate that a woman is not supposed to deliver in the hospital but in her house, others state that the mother in law should be the midwife in cases of first pregnancies while some affirm that a pregnant woman cannot deliver in the hospital without her husband’s consent.

And with the rise of the HIV/AIDS pandemic, most people are uninformed about the HIV transmission and have since believed that going to the hospital and getting an injection would transmit the deadly disease on their bodies thus they would rather deliver at their homes.
Women organizations have a heavy duty to reach out to the women in the rural areas and empower them with information on safe motherhood and also discourage them from traditions that endanger their lives and those of their unborn babies.
Most of the programmes and materials on safe motherhood are centered on the urban areas and few rural areas, while those that suffer the most are the ones living at the rural parts, we need to stretch out to them and share programmes and create concrete awareness so that lives of the women and those of the babies can be saved.
Community health centers should also be encouraged to fill the gaps left with the inadequate health facilities provided by the government, communities should not only rely on the government, NGO’s and Private sectors should come up and intervene because it is only with Safe Motherhood that this country will definitely have a safe future.

Recommendation
It is time that even the male, especially in our country to help our women to have safe delivery and avoid the still births and complications that are brought forth with the entire burden being assumed to be for the woman.

 

FAMILY PLANNING AMONG THE POOR

The practice of family planning in Kenya increased progressively since the early 1980s with the contraceptive prevalence rate for all methods reaching 39% in 1998. Use of modern contraceptives rose from 4% to 32% among married women between 1978 and 1998. Women were able to bear at least eight children because of their natural health and the availability of natural resources to take care of the children. Currently the birth rate has reduced to at least five children; this is because women are vulnerable to child birth complications during and after birth.

At the Coast.

With the introduction of diverse   family planning methods, people living in the rural areas still find it hard to access the FP services and contraceptives.

 At the Coastal region of Kenya, the main concern is the rate at which gender has affected family planning in families.

Gender affects FP in Coast due to;
-Lack of male involvement in FP
-Lack of awareness on FP.

Most families in the rural Coast do not realize that FP decreases maternal mortality cases and also gives the woman strength to bear another child.

Most of them have been misinformed about the FP methods and their effects on the body system while others have been barred by their religious and customary norms and beliefs.

 

 

 

 

One of CWID’s volunteers carrying
one-week old baby Riziki at the slums
of Mshomoroni.

Barriers to FP/RH services.

Some of the barriers to FP/RH access among the poor in Coast Province include;

  • Hunger -inability to feed the children
  •          -uncertainty about the next meal
  • Disinheritance from ancestral land and powerlessness
  • Inability to access health services which mostly are in the urban areas.
  • Misconception, misinformation and inaccurate information on FP.
  • Stigmazation among HIV+ women.
  • Socio-cultural and religious barriers
  • Lack of male involvement
  • Fear of side effects and health concerns.

 

 

In an FP Accessibility among the Poor forum where medical experts on maternal health, representatives of people from poor families in the rural Coast, organizations advocating for maternal health and which CWID as a stake holder attended, participants raised these as some of the issues that needed to be addressed.

Recommendations 

  • Introduction of wider outreach of FP services otherwise known as Community Based Distribution services- (CBDs).
  • Put in place systems to strengthen FP services i.e. affordability, availability and accessibility.
  • Empower health workers to go door to door and teach families on the importance of Family Planning. This move will capture even the male.
  • Improve staffing (service providers) to create a positive attitude to the clients.
  • Improve FP service community health strategy to help in;

-Data collection
-Education
-Male involvement
-Address norms and misconceptions.

  • Doctors to minimize side effects of FP and strengthen advocacy tools to demystify side effects.
  • Make FP free on government hospitals.
  • Awareness creation to empower the community with knowledge on FP.
  • Incorporate private and NGOs in policy making and stop relying on the government only.
  • Male involvement- need to develop guidelines to promote male involvement in FP.

Two reforms that were discussed included;

Health Reforms

It was evident that Coast Province needs innovative health workers who are ready to deliver good services to the clients. The health workers should have a positive attitude and have an action plan that will enable them commit to their work as service providers.

Hospital Reforms 

Hospitals providing FP and RH services need good infrastructure to enable the service providers deliver satisfactorily.

For successful FP services, hospitals need;

  • Conducive counseling environment and materials.
  • Provision of wide choice methods.
  • Follow up and appropriate referral system.
  • Monitoring and evaluation for record keeping
  • Functional logistic system.
CWID NEWS: NOVEMBER 2008

Climate Change on Women and Children

Coast Women In Development (CWID) recognizes that rural women are the most vulnerable to climate change, the husbands of these women go to the urban areas in search for employment leaving the women behind, incase of climate change disaster, women and children are forced to relocate to the nearest safe place, children are forced out of school until they are safely settled, during this period the women and children are prone to waterborne diseases and famine.

Impacts of climate change in Africa are mostly associated with water, droughts, floods and this changes affects agriculture, infrastructure, health and energy thus the challenge of climate proofing requires improving the ways in which water is managed and used, these investments are costly but can create jobs and enable communities to secure livelihoods.

Community participation can make themselves own the projects, by investing in water storage facilities. Communal dams and water tanks can be built alongside the rainwater source to be used when the rains are low. In these projects, issues of employment creation and economic growth for women and the youth should be considered before they are implemented.

Governments should capacity build the staff in meteorological stations to be able to capture and disseminate information correctly so that people can be prepared for climate changes. Best practices in effective data collection and dissemination should be invented in local communities.

Since the government is slow in information dissemination, NGO's can be incorporated because they are the ones who work on the grassroots where people are affected the most, thus funds from donors and private investors partnership should be encouraged

For the youths and young scholars, climate change studies should be incorporated in the schools curriculum as a way of increasing awareness in fighting climate change.

Women also need to be empowered in conservation of water systems by mobilizing women to form women groups and fund them, build for them storage facilities which they can manage for purposes of conservation.

 

The concept of upgrading slums should be incorporated in national policies, youths and women should be encouraged to seek employment in order to upgrade the slums, i.e. in sanitation, construction. 

It is evident that the agriculture sector is among the most vulnerable to climate change, this is clearly shown by the rising food prices. 

The African governments, NGOs and Civil Society should move fast and revitalize farmer education in line with climate change because it is unpredictable, measures should also be put to ensure that farmers are actively involved in climate change and disaster risk issues.

Incentives such as schools and employment opportunities should be created to enable people live in their local areas, people need to go back and develop their communities. Civil society has a role in making people appreciate and want to stay and develop their community.

NGOs and Civil Society need greater activism on avoiding deforestation. They should set up platforms for knowledge management. Input from research organizations is critical and experiences on good practices should be documented and shared.

Regional networking should be is important because this is a national disaster and a human plight that if not addressed now would have great negative impact in the world. NGO and civil society trainings should be encouraged in order to address this issue effectively.

The media should be encouraged to consider climate change a top agenda in their news, this can be done by capacity building reporters to editors, awards should also be given to those leading in disseminating environmental issues because this is a crisis that has befallen us and need to be prioritized 

From the African Commission Conference on Climate Change and Economic Growth we hope to address the effects of climate change during our community mobilizing and during the conferences that we will get a chance to attend.

CWID NEWS: OCTOBER 2008

WOMEN IN LEADERSHIP

Coast Women In Development (CWID) wishes many returns to Joyce Laboso and Beatrice Kones for their victory in their respective Sotik and Bomet constituencies’ by-elections. This is a clear indication that women are rising up to contest for the top positions. It also indicates that citizens are becoming confident in women leadership.

CWID also salutes all the other women who aspired for the seats, it is encouraging to note that more women are having courage in themselves to vie for positions in the government. 

Women have always been left out in the major positions in the public service sector, this has mired their participation and voice to be heard in most of the activities carried out in the government that would otherwise have an impact to their lives. 

Though women have been actively involved in backing up political parties, their number in parliament has continued to remain much less than that of men, this has led to their limited participation in politics and decision making at local levels. 

 

But with a show similar to the recent by election, the number of women in the cabinet could rise to greater heights. This can only be possible if other women in different constituencies follow suit and vie for those seats.

Having more women in the parliament is the only way to help trim down most the predicaments women and the girl child face ranging from Gender Based Violence, rape, early motherhood to HIV and poverty. 

The government should however increase the number of women in senior public service positions and address the existing gender concerns in the nation’s socio-economic, cultural and political way of life. 

Kenyan women should also stand and fight for their rights because CWID views Joyce and Beatrice’s victory as a breakthrough to women’s freedom to enjoy their positions without any nature of prejudice. 

One of CWID’s main objectives is to sensitize women on their rights and mobilize them at the community level to contend for the positions available in the society so that they can be represented in all kinds of leadership. 

CWID NEWS: AUGUST/SEPTEMBER 2008

WOMEN IN LEADERSHIP. 

CWID congratulates Violet Awuori's election into the Committee on the Elimination of 
Discrimination Against Women (CDAW), she was the only African Woman chosen from 
the 18 candidates who vied for the eleven positions in the UN body. 

In Kenya , women have still been left out in the major positions in the Public Service 
sector, this has mired their participation and voice to be heard in most of the activities 
carried out in the government that would otherwise have an impact to their lives. 

Even in the Truth Justice and Reconciliation Commission Bill, Waki and Cockar 
Commissions, no woman has been engaged in the chairing committee, women leaders 
have been left out yet they are the ones who understand the predicaments their fellow 
women and children have had to put up with during the skirmishes and the effects the 
budget has had on them. 

Women and the girl child are exposed to many socio-cultural dangers in the society 
which has dragged them behind in the fight for their rights. Other hindrances to attain 
their full development rights include lack of capacity building, customary practices and 
poverty. 

Women have been actively involved in political parties but their number in Parliament 
has continued to remain much less than that of men, this has led to their limited 
participation in politics and decision making at local levels. 

 

 

The only way forward is for the new constitution reform based on the Bomas draft to 
issue a directive against some of the problems women and the girl child face such as 
Female Genital Mutilation, Rape and Gender Based Violence. The media should also 
advocate against such practices. 

There is also a need for the appointment of women in District and Divisional 
administration offices and civic education to the women so that they can understand and 
advocate for their rights. 

Locally we have to mobilize women at the community level to participate in vying for the 
positions available in the society so that they can be represented everywhere. 

The government should however increase the number of women in senior public service 
positions and address the existing gender concerns in the nation's socio-economic, 
cultural and political way of life. 

Kenyan women should also stand and fight for their rights because CWID views Violet's 
victory as a breakthrough to women's freedom to enjoy their positions without any nature 
of prejudice. 

We also look forward to lots of women rise in such positions to help trim down most the 
quandary women and the girl child face ranging from Gender Based Violence, rape, 
early motherhood to HIV and poverty. 

Girl kills step father over TV remote control.

On Sunday 7th 2008, a 17 year old girl whose name we cannot reveal stabbed his 44 year old step father to death. The form three student had pierced her step father over a TV remote control. Her father was watching the Kenyan crucial match against Namibians which was on air at the time while she wanted to watch her favourite program on a different channel.

The step father had insisted on surrendering the remote control only after the match was over but the girl could not wait, she tried grabbing the remote control from her stepfather in vain, overcome by rage, she walked to the kitchen leaving her father glued to the television only for her to come back and stab him three times on the chest before she escaped. 

She was arrested almost 24 hours after the incident which occurred on the outskirts of Nairobi. When her story was aired in the television, it was clear that the girl and her step father had serious problems which have been placed under the carpet for years and probably her anger that Sunday was not just because she wanted to watch her favourite program but it could be as a result of all the issues between them.

The girl's mother had confessed too that the man came home that afternoon drunk and kept accusing his children for abusing him. What remains unclear though is why the father had such claims on his children and the predicaments the girl had gone through in the hands of her step father that pushed her to send him to his early grave.


 

At seventeen, though not an adult yet, she must have thought about it before committing that serious offence, it is still unclear whether the girl used the knife to defend herself or she had it all planned out. No one is also coming out in the open to unravel the problems the two have had which led the girl to murdering her stepfather in cold blood. 

Coast Women In Development (CWID) feels the girl's side of the story must be heard, people should know the agony she must have gone through before she is rightfully judged, murder is a serious offence in Kenya and the fact that she is under the age of 18 creates even more concern.. We believe she did not just wake up one day and looked for an excuse to stab her step father to death. 

Who knows, maybe the man, considering he was not her real father and that they did not have a good relationship, he might have discriminated or abused her in one way or the other. 

The issue is also raising eye brows because this time the story is the other way round, a girl has killed a man, if it was vice versa, it would have been a usual occurrence. We do not support the girl's act because it is against humanity and the law, but we hope she will be fairly judged. Though her act has painted a bad picture of her in the society, and she may be considered not fit to be in the society, we hope she will get counseling so that she can be accepted back. 

ABORTION

Just recently, our residents woke up to a shocking incidence where a supposedly two months old baby had been shallowly buried alive but seemed to have died later due to lack of oxygen.
The infant had been shallowly buried and its legs together with one hand were raised up with the fingers coiled, a sign that the poor little soul had died in the process of fighting for its life.
It amazes how some people can be that ruthless, how they expect to continue living happily with their conscience knowing that they cut off the life of an innocent soul.
It has also emerged that not only unborn babies are aborted, girls and women now throw away children even after mothering them for some days or months.
Well, a lot has been said in the unending debate on whether abortion should be legalized or not and no matter the teachings, back street abortion still exists in our country
Quack doctors still assist women especially young girls to abort and most of them have lost their lives in the process.
Maybe another solution should be sought, most of the women who happened to have witnessed the infant still buried in the shallow grave seemed to have other ways out of doing away with the infants.
‘If you know you cannot bring it up due to your own reasons, you better sneak out of the hospital and leave it there’ Mary Karanja suggested, adding that the baby would be safe and alive there other than throw it away somewhere where it is going to die.She said that it will be a guarantee that the baby will be taken care of by the nurses and maybe end up in one the children homes.
Others even suggested they would rather drop the baby at the church, ‘If I am incapable of raising my child, I would just attend a mass service and during the confusion when the mass has ended, I simply place it in one of the benches and leave unnoticed’ Catherine revealed.She believes that the child will be in the safe hands of God’s people and probably end up in the orphanages. Some even disclosed that they would identify a woman who they know is unable to give birth and maybe yearning for one, then drop the baby at her doorstep such that if the barren woman finds the abandoned baby, ‘She’d think it is a blessing from God’ quoted Amina.

 

Others contemplated handing the baby to a stranger, pretending that they are going in a nearby shop or toilet and promising to come back in a minute, only for them to varnish in the thin air for good.
Some were wise enough to think of taking it to a children’s home or an orphanage but since a lot of protocols always have to be followed, they would just drop it at the gate and disappear living the rest of the work to those running the institutions.This is better off they say, than throwing it in a garbage or pit latrines, drowning it in the river, burying it or even strangling it to death.
The issue on the legalization of abortion is now out of question, the only way forward is controlling unsafe sexual activities.
We surely cannot control abortion if young girls still involve themselves in irresponsible sexual behaviors since it is the root cause of abortion.
And since we cannot control people’s sexual activities because those are private matters, we ought to find a solution that will look into the lives of the innocent infants.CWID knows that the youths are the most affected breed because at their age they are sexually active such that on some occasions they forget using protection. That’s why one of our objectives is to offer counseling on reproductive health and we discourage them from premarital sexual activities, we also counsel girls and women on abortion.If we cannot take care of some of these problems before they are out, we ought to have a control measure when the damage has already been done.
If we cannot stop abortion at its early stage, then we should look for a way of helping the abandoned infants out.
Those innocent lives really need to be saved, the health ministry in our view should come up with an initiative that will facilitate the disposal and rescue the infants that is, for those stubborn and merciless minds that still opt for throwing away babies.
One woman lamented, ‘Who knows, maybe that poor soul lying on its early grave was to be a Pilot, a Chief Executive Officer of one of the biggest companies, a Doctor, a Pope, a Lawyer, a great Media personality or even a great Human Rights Advocate.

CWID NEWS: JUNE/JULY 2008

CWID SUPPORTS KARUA

Following the controversial Grand Regency Hotel saga, CWID strongly supported Justice and Constitutional Affairs Minister Martha Karua in her assurance to institute thorough investigation over the issue.

The Grand Regency case has caused unnecessary anxiety amongst Kenyans. It is also likely to affect the operationalisation of the recently read budget which we felt was unfair to the women.

CWID asked the President to quickly relieve Finance Minister Amos Kimunya of his ministerial seat so as to redirect the citizen’s energy back to constructive development activities. This move would definitely pave way for free and fair 

 

 

investigations.We feel Kibaki’s words will relieve Kenyans of tension and save them from street demonstrations. The more he is keeping silence, the more Kenyans are losing confidence not only in him but in his government too.We are afraid a repeat of the recent skirmishes might erupt if the president continues to exhibit his aloofness to issues of national importance such as this. It is not yet lost on us that Kenyans went through enormous torture as a result of the disputed presidential elections of 2007.

CWID on behalf of women in Coast Province is concerned and calls for a quick and conclusive action on the Grand Regency sale which should also punish those purported to have been involved in facilitating the process.

FINANCE MINISTER RESIGNS

Just a day after CWID publicized her back-up to the Justice and Constitutional Affairs Minister Martha Karua in Pwani and Baraka FM Radio stations in Coast Province, the Finance Minister Amos Kimunya at last stepped down to pave way for investigations.

Even after Kimunya’s mystifying words ‘I’d rather die than resign’ three days ago, yesterday he did exactly the opposite, he chose to resign rather than to die. This move is wise though he left Kenyans with a negative picture of himself. He repeatedly lied to us.

When the Kenyans first heard of the sale of Grand Regency saga a week ago, the Finance minister denied the claims terming them as ‘bar rumours’. CWID felt that the big issue here was not the sale of the Grand hotel but the fact that he never came out clean to the public. He gave us many versions of his story.

 

First it was that the Grand hotel had not been sold, then the sale was by private agreement between the Kenyan and Libyan governments then that the sale was between the Libyan Embassy and Central Bank of Kenya [CBK] and finally that the transaction was between CBK and Libyan Investors. We do not even know if the hotel was sold at Sh.2.5 or 1.85 Billions as alleged.

But we are at ease now that he is out of office and we look forward to a free and conclusive investigation which will bring out what exactly unveiled in the Grand Regency Sale. We also hope that the investigations will be done fast so that the Finance Ministry can act on the budget adjustments they made especially on food stuffs, fuel and the hiking electricity tariffs. 

 

CAROLINE’S HEARTRENDING DEMISE.

Caroline’s dedication to her violent and bhang addict husband Farook was without a shred of doubt, no amount of words from her parents and friends made her think twice about walking out of her marriage. The 32 year old was a hairdresser while her husband is a manager at the Kenya Ports Authority [KPA]. Farook is a converted Muslim and when he married Caroline she had to follow suit and was named Salma though her friends and family still called her Caro.

Even after her husband infected her with the HIV virus, she still stuck with him. That was after her second child, Caroline therefore talked with her husband not to have unprotected sex because of their condition but one fateful night, her husband stormed in and forced himself on her, Caroline pleaded with him to use protection but in vain. Another baby was on the way.

When Caroline informed her husband about the pregnancy and that she would give birth through Caesarian section to prevent the baby from contracting the disease, he said he did not want any other baby, and told Caroline that if she decided to keep the baby then she will have to pay for the bills. That was the main issue which resulted to her death.

When she was seven and a half months pregnant, Farook thumped her and pushed her hard on the wall leaving her unconscious. Neighbours took her to the hospital and Farook disappeared, she was released the following day. Not even when she delivered did her husband come back, it was always the neighbours and friends who were besides her.

A week later, Caroline complained of severe headache and she could not feel her right side, it was paralyzed. She was taken to the hospital for X-ray, the doctor’s report revealed she had a brain hemorrhage. Farook appeared that day and was met with Furious women outside the Pandya hospital who accuse her of being responsible for her wife’s condition. He had to find his way out through the hospital’s backdoor.

Three days later, Caroline’s condition got worse and she passed away on the midnight of June 9th. Her death shook the women of Mombasa district and it was all over in the news. They demonstrated and called for the immediate arrest of Farook for allegedly murdering his wife. The whole saga grew hotter when Farook appeared claiming to take his wife’s body for burial in the Muslim way without even a post mortem.

 

Women were furious and blocked him from taking the body until the doctors did a post mortem to determine the cause of her brain hemorrhage, two weeks later, Caroline was put to rest at the Ziwani Cemetery. Her burial was one of its kind, it was the Muslim verses the Christians.

Many of the Muslim laws were violated, first Caroline stayed for two weeks before being buried yet according to their denomination, one is to be buried as soon as she/he is dead. Following their laws, women are not allowed to step in the cemetery but on that day, the women protesters stormed in the cemetery chanting and booing Farook for killing his wife. Farook had to be escorted by the police officers to save him from the angry mob of women.

It is even rumoured that the grave where Caroline was to be buried in submerged three times, each time they dug out the soil, it would sink in again, Caroline father who was not at the burial had to be called to ‘talk’ to her daughter. It was indeed a bitter pill for that old man to swallow.

Caroline is survived with three daughters, Sakina, Jamilla and Leila and three other boys Abdulrak, Zayeed and Abubakar from Farook’s first marriage.  Farook has since gotten hold of the post mortem results from the Doctors and has refused to let it public, he is also demanding for the infant who he never wanted in the first place. The baby girl, Leila is still in the hospital.

The two months old Leila is still on prophylaxes therapy, she tested positive but since her antibodies are not mature, she might turn negative because she doesn’t have the virus yet. But we are afraid that from the beating Caroline received, 

CWID feels her rights as a woman were violated and we took her story to create awareness on women who are in abusive marriages, let them not wait till its too late to save themselves. We want women to be free from abusive marriages or any kind of violation. We will not stop fighting for the women and children until they are all free.

RIZIKI ALI

Her condition, her isolation, and her demands.

Riziki is a 54 year old HIV+ woman who has been a widow for four years now, she is a mother of ten with three still in primary school, one of her daughters is not schooling because she is taking care of her mother.

We met Riziki as we were out on the ground, her physical outlook worried us and we talked to her, luckily she was willing to talk to us even though she was not confident enough to accept her condition, she gave us pieces of her painful story and left us to link up everything.

When her big sister who died twelve years ago was hospitalized after she was found to be HIV+, she was the one who took care of her, she had to play her sister’s roles as a mother and wife according to their culture. That meant sleeping with her sister’s husband.It was not until last year September that she noticed her health was deteriorating and consulted a doctor at the Coast General Hospital who has since put her under medication.

 

Riziki’s altitude is encouraging, she is strong hearted and cheerful and she is trying to live positively though her poverty status does not allow her. Only two of her children are aware of her status and they are the only ones who support her where necessary, the other older children have isolated her and are not willing to assist her in either way, she is afraid revealing her status to them will broaden the gap even more.We have frequently visited her and we recommended she should be taken to a good doctor for proper medication. We also proposed counseling for her and her children because it is evident, she needs both their financial and emotional support.We are looking forward to assist bridge the gab between her children and her and also to see her get back to her feet because when we visited her, she was on her bed, looking weak but very determined stand up and fetch for her school going children.CWID decided to share this story to alert women to shun from practices that would leave them infected with not just AIDS but any other disease that would affect their health. We also encourage women to visit VCT centres for counseling on living positively.